Making It Through the Hard Times

People ask: How do you manage to keep (relatively) stable during tough times with the family? The question led to these five axioms. 1. Distinguish Between What I Can Impact or Control From ...

For God’s Sake, What About Mercy?

To love an addict raises a lot of questions for a Christian.  To love poses not only emotional and spiritual challenges but also requires, as my friend Allan Tysick says, ‘wrassling with the fait...

Waiting for News While On the Edge

The tide was out, and the gulls were quiet, floating just offshore of Rathtrevor Beach. The tide would turn soon but, at this moment, the air was fresh, scented with just a tinge of seaweed, the breez...

Staying Afloat in Waves of Grief

Twice in four days I turned for a last look, once knowing I would never see her again, the other wondering if this was my last glimpse of him. Two weeks ago Thursday night, my wife Gaye and I saw...

If I relapse…. (Caleb)

Caleb was released into a native recovery house the middle of May. I talked with him by phone on May 16th. He sounded positive and happy. When Gaye and I arrived home from vacation nine days late...

Once in a Lifetime (Caleb)

This is the story of how everything changed for me. I was 34 years old and in a detox facility in Victoria, probably for the second or third time that year. I have always met solid people in deto...

Life is Not a Straight Line

I like setting goals. No question that, for me, clear goals, with a timeline and milestones, foster growth and accomplishment. The days in which I discipline myself to identify the three most importan...

Staying Clean (Caleb)

I have every reason in the world to stay clean.  My family has shown an indescribable level of forgiveness and support. My beautiful companion has given me the most wonderful gift of trust, respe...

Beloved and Belonging

We wondered how our first session with three - almost four - year old Grace and her year old sister Reese would go. Ever since Grace was the age of Reese, she has, on a weekly basis, assumed the ...

Teenage Wasteland (Caleb)

I wish I could gloss over my teen years. Some parts though were important to my identity. As a Cree person growing up away from home, culture, family, peers and teachings I sought out an identity...