Have I Lost My Ability to Believe?

Caleb, my son, is back in jail.After a three-month “run” on heroin, cocaine and other cocktails, he was picked up on a breach of the conditions of his release. No new charges; only the past with which...

Making It Through the Hard Times

People ask: How do you manage to keep (relatively) stable during tough times with the family?The question led to these five axioms.1. Distinguish Between What I Can Impact or Control From What Impacts...

For God’s Sake, What About Mercy?

To love an addict raises a lot of questions for a Christian. To love poses not only emotional and spiritual challenges but also requires, as my friend Allan Tysick says, ‘wrassling with the faith.’Ope...

Waiting for News While On the Edge

The tide was out, and the gulls were quiet, floating just offshore of Rathtrevor Beach. The tide would turn soon but, at this moment, the air was fresh, scented with just a tinge of seaweed, the breez...

Staying Afloat in Waves of Grief

Twice in four days I turned for a last look, once knowing I would never see her again, the other wondering if this was my last glimpse of him.Two weeks ago Thursday night, my wife Gaye and I saw Caleb...

If I relapse…. (Caleb)

Caleb was released into a native recovery house the middle of May. I talked with him by phone on May 16th. He sounded positive and happy. When Gaye and I arrived home from vacation nine days late...

Once in a Lifetime (Caleb)

This is the story of how everything changed for me.I was 34 years old and in a detox facility in Victoria, probably for the second or third time that year. I have always met solid people in detox faci...

Life is Not a Straight Line

I like setting goals. No question that, for me, clear goals, with a timeline and milestones, foster growth and accomplishment. The days in which I discipline myself to identify the three most importan...

Staying Clean (Caleb)

I have every reason in the world to stay clean. My family has shown an indescribable level of forgiveness and support. My beautiful companion has given me the most wonderful gift of trust, respect, ho...