Have I Lost My Ability to Believe?

Caleb, my son, is back in jail.After a three-month “run” on heroin, cocaine and other cocktails, he was picked up on a breach of the conditions of his release. No new charges; only the past with which...

What To Do With Hurtful Memories

Grappling with the past is no small matter.For some families, memories are the mortar that binds them together; for others, different interpretations act like the explosive C4, detonating at inappropr...

Making It Through the Hard Times

People ask: How do you manage to keep (relatively) stable during tough times with the family?The question led to these five axioms.1. Distinguish Between What I Can Impact or Control From What Impacts...

If I relapse…. (Caleb)

Caleb was released into a native recovery house the middle of May. I talked with him by phone on May 16th. He sounded positive and happy. When Gaye and I arrived home from vacation nine days late...

Change Your Life! How Hard Can it Be?

Change your life.Industries exist in response to deep yearnings - wealth, security, physical health, beauty, mental health, functioning relationships. Choose a product from one of the billion dollar e...

Once in a Lifetime (Caleb)

This is the story of how everything changed for me.I was 34 years old and in a detox facility in Victoria, probably for the second or third time that year. I have always met solid people in detox faci...

Life is Not a Straight Line

I like setting goals. No question that, for me, clear goals, with a timeline and milestones, foster growth and accomplishment. The days in which I discipline myself to identify the three most importan...

Staying Clean (Caleb)

I have every reason in the world to stay clean. My family has shown an indescribable level of forgiveness and support. My beautiful companion has given me the most wonderful gift of trust, respect, ho...

Theme for a Jackal (Caleb)

A large part of my childhood was normal and, at times, really good. I was truly blessed to have been adopted by my parents and I’m so thankful they were gifted tolerance and patience by the Creator! T...