The spirits and prayer (Caleb)

In spite of where I am and the position I’ve put myself in I feel optimistic about my life.  ​Sometimes it’s hard, but because of my understanding of the Medicine Path, I can navigate situat...

Fries or Cocaine?

How hard is it to change your life? Not very. And extremely. Depending on the issue, my actions span the spectrum. Add a chocolate bar and a gelato to my daily routine, not a problem. Stoppi...

The Net Was Not There (Caleb)

I bear the primary responsibility for my actions. During my last relapse, it was I who left the recovery house. I picked up drugs at 4 am. I didn’t fight for myself. But recovery is not just a ma...

Have I Lost My Ability to Believe?

Caleb, my son, is back in jail. After a three-month “run” on heroin, cocaine and other cocktails, he was picked up on a breach of the conditions of his release. No new charges; only the past with...

What To Do With Hurtful Memories

Grappling with the past is no small matter. For some families, memories are the mortar that binds them together; for others, different interpretations act like the explosive C4, detonating at ina...

Making It Through the Hard Times

People ask: How do you manage to keep (relatively) stable during tough times with the family? The question led to these five axioms. 1. Distinguish Between What I Can Impact or Control From ...

For God’s Sake, What About Mercy?

To love an addict raises a lot of questions for a Christian.  To love poses not only emotional and spiritual challenges but also requires, as my friend Allan Tysick says, ‘wrassling with the fait...